How to Deal with Verbal Aggression 

"A practical, thoughtful, almost Buddhist approach to verbal aggression... a clear and invaluable text for all who are faced with the seeming confrontations of everyday life."
      Prof. Stephen Chan, University of London.

"One of our managers just can't handle pressure. Whenever we are working to a deadline, if anybody makes even the slightest mistake, he screams and swears. Although he always apologises later it's really unpleasant and I wish I knew how to stop it."

"It would be hard to find a business guide which is easier to read and easier to understand than Robert Agar Hutton's book... every page is a gem of succinct, clear advice... Anybody who comes into contact with other human beings should read this book and absorb its excellent messages."
     Dr Mike Kearsley, Wordcom Associates.

“Very Impressive”

I wish I would have known years ago what I learned from your book. It really made a difference in my life. Thank you!”

– Ellen P., Mendon, NY, US

“Finally, I Get It!”

“I have been suffering from loneliness since childhood. Now I finally understand what has kept me from making and keeping good friends. After reading this book, I transformed the quality of my life —dramatically.”

 – Wendy L., Brisbane Australia

“Your Simple Tips Really Work!”

“Your book has helped me so much! I was ashamed to ever talk about my loneliness with other people. Your tips are so simple and they work! When reading this book, I discovered that I can be happy no matter what is going on in my life.”

– Janette W., Ostend, New Zealand

“This Made a Real Difference!”

“I have been disappointed with Internet dating and social networking sites. I can now make real friends and have real relationships. Every hour of every day, I can make the choices to have my life continue to be outstanding.”

 – Pam R., Middleburg, Florida, US

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"Dramatically Changed My Social Life... Charming Presence ...

Anywhere I Go"

mark,

i want to write and tell you that your system and techniques have dramatically changed my social life even in the last month.

This is nothign short of amazing. i can create a charming presence on the entire social circle anywhere i go, and mad

popularity/admiration never hurts :)

i'm very grateful that i found this and i wouldn't give up this knowledge for anything.

i also realized how relating to others to key to happiness. i didn't believe it at first but i see it more and more daily. i'll continue to tell

you how it all goes, thanks a ton for the email & help!

ciao,

justin p. , Los Angeles, Calif

 Conversation Fire and Charisma Secrets

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Managing my Out-of-Control Teen!

Here’s a recent email from a new member of Online Parent Support. She and her
husband sent this email to their son’s Counselor:


“…coming up with a proper diagnosis and treatment has taken us down many
roads, all leading to different therapies, parent-education classes, including
Jayne Major's course Breakthrough Parenting Services as well as James
Lehman's Total Transformation Program. Through countless hours of research
and phone calls, we have discovered the different levels of support are
dependent on insurance, out of pocket expenses, including potentially selling our
home and putting him in a residential treatment center with no guarantees of a
positive outcome. Needless to say, quality intervention has been hard to find.

Recently we found an on-line course by Mark Hutten called My Out Of Control
Teen. It seems the most helpful and pragmatic approach so far. We wanted to
share with you where we are in the course so we are all on the same page in
helping our son and family through this crisis.”

Managing my Out-of-Control Teen!

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How Do I Tell My Kids about the Divorce...?

Clinical Psychologist, Jack Singer says …

"Rosalind Sedacca's 'How Do I Tell the Kids about the DIVORCE?' is a much needed breakthrough iin the emotional minefield that parents traverse when they prepare their children for an impending divorce.

The template, storybook strategy sends sensitive, kind, loving and safe messages, which every child needs as they prepare for the scary unknown. I recommend her book for everyone who has children and is contemplating divorce."

Jack Singer, Ph.D.

Licensed Clinical & Forensic Psychologist

Expert Witness, Custody and Family Matters

Psychotherapist and author, Dr. Paul Wanio says …

“Rosalind Sedacca has put together a vital tool in helping children (and families) through one of the most difficult times in life.

Her new book, "How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce?" moves beyond a traditional "self-help book" and becomes a real, practical, ongoing part of a child's life. It accomplishes this by being interactive and involving real participation by the child and other family members. I am proud to have contributed to this wonderful project that Rosalind created from her own, personal experience as well as the participation of other mental health professionals. I highly recommend this as more than a book, but a tool to assist children to more successfully navigate the disorientation and maze that is part and parcel of divorce.”

C. Paul Wanio, Ph.D., LMFT, LMHC

Author and Parenting Specialist, Dr. Sally Goldberg says …

“This hands-on interactive storybook is a must for all parents going through a divorce.

It is a step-by-step guide for appropriately including children in the process. No parent should leave their home without it!”

 Sally Goldberg, PhD

Center for Successful Children

Parenting Specialist

Author of Constructive Parenting and other parenting books

How Do I Tell My Kids about the Divorce...?

Better Behaved Kids in Less than 7 Days!

I just wanted to let you know that your wheel is WONDERFUL!!!!

I read about it on About's Special Ed and ordered it.  My son is nine going on ten and is very ADHD. We were beginning to believe he was a compulsive liar and that he did not have a conscience. The first week was tough, we had to keep a "log" of consequences just to keep track, but we stuck to it and never got argument one; the change is DRAMATIC!!!!

He is like a new kid!!!! He used to do things (binge sweets in the middle of the night almost every night, break things, not do his homework etc.) and then look you dead in the eye and deny and lie (it was like the lie was his reality) and pitch fits and have angry outbursts.

Now he accepts the consequences without a blink and does not insist he is right and the bad behaviors are few and far between. My 3 year old isn't quite ready yet; she's too excited and wants to spin!!!!

I have told my son's psychiatrist about the dramatic change and will be giving him your website to pass on.

I really wish I could convey just how much easier life is and how much more hope I have for my son's future

THANK YOU!!!!!!"

Sincerely, Stephanie Albright, IA

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"My parents never disciplined me in any way when I was growing up. As a result, absolutely the hardest thing for me to learn has been self-control. Learning the simplest things become so much harder. It leaves you all on your own to figure out how the world REALLY works right down to the most insignificant details. It also leaves you believing that your parents have other more important things to do than to bother with you. You're left feeling like you're not a priority with your parents.

When parents don't discipline their kids, they're setting them up to fail in life because they're not teaching them how the world works. As these kids grow up, they're left with the unbelievably difficult and extremely shocking task of adjusting to a completely different world than what they grew up in. It's like moving to a place where everyone speaks a completely different language and has completely different customs and beliefs than you do. You have to throw out everything you've learned in your own culture and start from scratch to figure out EVERYTHING. When parents DO provide strict discipline for their kids, learning the rules of life and self-control become so much easier.

I can't begin to describe what I would have given to have had parents that loved me enough to be "so mean to me" that they disciplined me the way Dr. Phil has obviously been doing with his children. Because then you at least know they love you, are looking out for you, and will always be there for you."

Becca
http://mademecry.tripod.com

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Laura Ramirez, mother of two and author and publisher of Family Matters! Online Parenting Magazine

"I think parents will be amazed at how quickly the Wheel triggers behavior modification. After a few spins, my cunning 4 year old quickly understood exactly what behavior was unacceptable. More importantly,

she realized that discipline would be objectively and consistently dispensed. The Wheel helps parents to

do a better job so their kids can be better kids. I highly recommend the Wheel."

- Julie Joyce, Editor of the - "Safe Kids Report"

http://www.SafeKidsReport.com

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"I think the kids were intimidated and curious of the wheel when we first got it - now that we have had a couple of spins I think they are getting the message. My daughter has not needed to spin yet - we told her if she could go a whole week that we would let her spin the Just Desserts and wherever it landed is what we would do - so she

really is excited about that and is trying very hard. It has helped us out quite a bit - thanks - what a great idea!!

I have passed this information on to other friends and parents and will direct them to your website.

Thanks again!! If there is anything else you create or even if you update the wheel please let us know."

- Carolyn Moerkerk, mother and customer
(carolynmoerkerk@hotmail.com)

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"WOW!!! I love it. The kids are already changing in just an afternoon. Peace - haven't heard that in a while.

I have been dreading summer just because of the kids being home and fighting with each other more - but not now :)

We are a blended family of 8 children - his, mine, and ours. It makes for very interesting visits with the whole family and a lot of getting on each others nerves at times. Thank you so very much for getting rid of the whole problem of giving unequal punishment out to the "stepchildren". (Seems like the only time that word is used is when someone gets punished.) Now it's fair - FINALLY. They choose to disobey - they choose their punishment.

It's great. Now I can look forward to the summer visitations. Thank you from the bottom of my heart !!!!"

Lisa---"A Mother's Touch Daycare"
(mommyhandlon@aol.com)

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"Hi Julie

We've received the wheel and are very impressed. We put it together during a planning meet between staff and volunteers and it lead to a great chat about consequences and rewards. We will be using it as a doorprize during a July 16th peer group. The group will be lead by Dr. Phillips, behaviour management specialist.

I will let you know if some of our parents would like to order your product. thanks again for your great work."

Darlene Jamieson
Executive Director
Big Sisters of Nipissing
147 Main St. West,
North Bay, ON

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"This program is fabulous!!! I have just started typing in the "themes" appropriate for my class (for instance, being bossy) and putting in relevant consequences. I can't wait for somebody to be "bad"!

Thanks a million!"
Bev G.
Kindergarten Teacher
Efland-Cheeks School
Efland, NC

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Jacqueline Muniz, Public Information Specialist
Children's Services Council
Palm Beach County

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"Kudos!

Incredible!

All of those wonderful "Broadway Reviews."

I teach a course in "Violence and Aggression," at John Jay College of Criminal Justice and would love to distribute brochures to my graduate students. Please send about 4 dozen to me at:

Professor Robert M. Lichtman Department of Forensic Psychology"

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"Hi Julie,
Very creative! And since parents of ADHD kids often have ADHD themselves, having pre-planned consequences takes the "on the spot" thinking out of it. (I used to give my kids time outs and forget what I sent them to their room for.

I'd have to say something generic to them like "now, you know we can't have that kind of behavior around here". Then they would start defending themselves and clue me in to what they had done!)"

Marie P.,
Coordinator
Chester County CHADD

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"I've been testing your wheel on 3 families with kids with ADHD with great results.

...Charles Harrison, New Zealand

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"My kids actually like the wheel (even the bad stuff). They helped choose the consequences, the themes, and the rewards. It is funny to watch them call for a certain consequence (kind of like that old TV show with the whammies...come on no whammies, no whammies, lol) I am not the "bad guy" anymore.

My kids are 10 and 13 (girl, and boy). I think that you have come up with a wonderful tool for diffusing power struggles and teaching kids responsibility for their own actions. (You can quote me on that!)"

...Ms. Leslie Guillemette, North Bay, Ontario

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"Hello Julie,

We think your wheel and story are so great we've added a link for Find-a-Therapist to your site!

We'd also like to give you our award:  My name is Judy Gifford and I am President of Find-a-THerapist, Inc.

I am pleased to offer you our Recognition Award given to those sites which present excellent infomation on issues involving mental health.

Best regards,
Judy Gifford
Find-a-Therapist, Inc

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"I think your wheel is terrific, and my four sons agree...sort of. While our children need consequences for wrong actions, it's nice to temper the punishment with a dash of humor. This is the proverbial spoonful of sugar

to help the medicine go down! Only a loving parent could come up with such an effective way to discipline children. Thanks for a great product."

"...Kayla Fay, Publisher of "Who Put the Ketchup in the Medicine Cabinet?" (www.goaskmom.com)

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" Dear Julie,

Thanks for the follow up email. Yes I have received the behavior wheel in very quick time. My children have found it very novel, especially my 8 year old son. He has been actively involved in deciding new consequences and drawing his own corresponding pictures. He has made a wheel titled "too naughty for words" and chose consequences and actions that he thought were appropriate. The trouble I have is that they are almost fighting over who spins the wheel first!!!

So far I have had my daughter make my son's bed, my son make me breakfast, 24 hours without computer, dishwasher emptied, plus 2 trips to the movies. All without a whimper of protest. I don't know if the novelty will wear off, but for now the stress levels in the house have certainly dropped. Thank you.

I have recommended it to a friend who also found the concept interesting. I am a child care coordinator and understand the principles behind the wheel. I wish I had thought of it.

Yours gratefully,
Alison Jones"
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"Hi Julie, I don't have (or interact with) kids, but your invention is amazing. I could see ordering this even for myself and my beloved. ("It's 10 o'clock, no one's started the dishes yet....") This is a breakthrough of Henry Kissinger / Benjamin Disreali caliber - thanks for the brilliant idea! - Am recommending your site to all my friends with kids and grandkids. Best of luck."

Chris Wegner, Denver, CO.
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"Received our wheel yesterday. We are going to put this into action. We've agreed with our almost 8 year old on 3 wheels to begin with:

1) for "A job poorly done" (we added the word -"needs to improve quality of work" -using all the extra work to be done , if chores and household tasks are not completed in a quality way.

2) REWARDS !! wheel of just desserts...SHE LOVED THIS ONE...

3) Peaceful Cooperation Wheel - We agreed on a list of 5 behaviours - kindness, pleasant words, sharing, peace-making , and first time listening.

So we are using 2 of your categories and added our "own" (in true fashion of homeschoolers!).
Thanks so much. We'll be in touch to let you know how well this worked for our family. I'm hoping this will eliminate conflict between myhusband and me as well. We all agreed to the plan, and now we'll all stick to the plan."

Kristine Mains

Better Behaved Kids in Less than 7 Days!

"This wonderful book will give you the boost toward success that can make all the difference!"

- Brian Tracy, author of Maximum Achievement

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- Robert Allen, best-selling author of Nothing Down, Multiple Streams of Income, and The One Minute Millionaire.

"Kent's book, "Unstoppable Confidence" should be required reading for all schools. The ability to communicate effectively is critical for success and he's laid out a step by step process to master that art."

- Ron LeGrand, Real Estate Multimillionaire

"An important work on a significant competency for anyone who wants to excel in business and in life. Read it and learn solid ideas to nurture your soul and nourish your mind."

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"Kent Sayre is without a doubt the most highly motivated person I have ever coached! His book, Unstoppable Confidence, can turn anyone into a human dynamo if you just follow his simple suggestions!"

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- Gerry Robert, author of The Millionaire Mindset

"As an entrepreneur who has raised billions of dollars and run multimillion dollar companies, one of the keys that I attribute to my success is my confidence in myself. Never before have I seen so many specific, easy to use techniques to expand confidence in one place except in Unstoppable Confidence by Kent Sayre."

- Bernhard Dohrmann, multimillionaire retired investment banker and author of Diamond Heart

 

The Secrets to Unstoppable Self-Confidence

"Lee Milteer is the teacher who has changed my life and improved my attitude."

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My wife bought your program for me and I was shocked at how I had let myself get into this state of overwork and how I had been taking my frustration out on my kids and wife.

Since I started your program, I have improved my relationships with my family, clients, and myself. I now have a lifestyle that supports me in a prosperous way.

All I can say to anyone who is trying to decide if your Habit Busting system will work for them is this: Give yourself the gift of releasing the past and starting a brand new future. Lee Milteer is the teacher who has changed my life and improved my attitude. It was a small investment for a large return! Thank you with all my heart!"

Teddy Willis, Dallas , Texas

"This type of material should have been offered to everyone in the school system."

"How can I express my gratitude for the information you shared in your wonderful program Habit Busting? Truly a virtuoso performance! This type of material should have been offered to everyone in the school system. I had lots of bad habits and bad attitudes. Once I started listening to your program, I could not get over how EASY it was to change.

All the diets and self-improvement programs I have used in the past had a limited effect on me. Your system helped me go back to the root of my problems and helped me for the very first time understand exactly why I had failed in all my attempts before.

It's shocking how easy it has been for me to change my life and change my future with your information. I have learned that nothing can stop me from the exciting future I want for myself and my family. You are a blessing from God. Thank you."

Nancy Williams, Va. Beach , Virginia

"I have changed my habits from negative ones to positive ones and my family thinks I am a new person."

"I could not be happier! I have lost 10 pounds already and only have a few more to go. I have changed my habits from negative ones to positive ones and my family thinks I am a new person.

I was very pleased with the depth of your knowledge and your wonderful humor. I totally recommend this program to any woman who wants to FEEL empowered and in charge of her life again!!"    

Patti Ehlers, Charlotte , North Carolina

"Lee, you received the highest evaluations of anyone's programs we have ever used in our office."

"Lee, you received the highest evaluations of anyone's programs we have ever used in our office. One of the programs that really hit home was your Habit Busting: How to Break Any Habit in 21 Days. At first people laughed and said no one could change bad habits in 21 days. Yet, people in our office who took your program home and used it proved them wrong.

They did break the old habits and transferred those old behaviors into new ones. Our office staff just voted you the #1 person they wanted to come speak to us in-person next year. Again, Thank you for your educational, informative, life changing materials."

William J. Graham, Columbus Ohio

"I suggest any woman who is feeling overwhelmed invest in this program because it will change your life!"

"Habit Busting has helped me stop being a perfectionist and working myself to death. Thanks to this incredible program I have given myself permission to stop trying to please everyone and for once in my life start living for me. 

Lee Milteer is a great coach and I have many other programs she has produced and I love them all. She has given me the tools to become the woman I wanted to be but did not know how until now.  I suggest any woman who is feeling overwhelmed invest in this program because it will change your life!"   

Elizabeth Langlois, Phoenix , AZ

"We have a Lee Milteer Fan club here and we wanted to thank you for all your wisdom that makes our lives so much easier."

"Your habit busting program is splendid! I own a Real Estate company and we realtors had developed some very bad habits such as being late, putting off paperwork, and not being organized. Since we purchased your system for our staff, we have received nothing but very enthusiastic responses from our members.

I get a "thank you" almost every day from the people who have now taken back their lives and feel in control again. Some of our people started a weight loss club and have lost more than 104 pounds combined in just a few months.

We have a Lee Milteer Fan club here and we wanted to thank you for all your wisdom that makes our lives so much easier."

Paul S. Gorkin
Gorkin Reality, GA.

"I have lost 34 pounds, and learned to put my health and needs first."

"Talk about feeling motivated again!  I invested in Lee Milteer's Habit Busting System and I am truly excited about life again. I have learned to stop saying yes when I want to say no. How liberating it has been to learn to nurture myself and give myself permission to be whom and what I want to be. 

I have stopped being a people pleaser, lost 34 pounds, and learned to put my health and needs first. God bless Lee Milteer and God bless this program. It's inspiring and contains more truth on living a successful life than any other program I have ever had. I just love listening to Lee every morning as I drive to work."

Nancy Myers, Washington , D.C.

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