Affiliated COUNSELING AND REFERRAL SERVICES (ACRS)

                                         DR. Michael Shery, clinical psychology

                                                  2615 Three Oaks Rd. Ste 2A,  Cary, IL 60013

  www.carypsychology.com  847 516 0899 (24 Hrs);  drmike@carypsychology.com

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Dr. Mike Shery who is the director of ACRS and is a licensed clinical psychologist. He has practiced clinical psychology for approximately 24 years and is affiliated with almost all health plans, including:  ValueOptions, Medicare, Cigna, Cigna Behavioral Health, United Health Care, Aetna, First Health, Healthstar, Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois, ComPsych, Magellan Health, HFN, Tricare, Humana, most union local plans, most school district plans, Unicare, ChoiceCare, CAPP, Multiplan, Mental Health Network, Managed Health Network, United Behavioral Health and Beech Street.

He is board certified as a specialist in professional counseling by the International Academy of Behavioral Medicine, Counseling and Psychotherapy. He a member of the American Counseling Association. The office is located in Cary, IL, near Crystal Lake and Algonquin, in southern McHenry County, IL.  In select cases, phone consultations are available for those who don’t live locallyTelephone Counseling.

To make an appointment, schedule yourself now; Click here: Make appointment for Cary Office: Therapy and Counseling     

Or, if you prefer, call Dr. Shery at 1-847-516-0899 and he'll schedule one for you on the spot. .

Should You Divorce or Get Marriage Counseling?

by Ralph Crainer

Divorce - An easy way out?

Problems can crop up in any marriage. Managing them needs dedication, hard work and sometimes professional help. But the reward for the effort can be well worth it. Divorce isn't always the alternative to working through the rough times of marraige -- not for everybody.

Talking it out, the goal of marriage and family counseling is CRUCIAL! 

A lack of communication lies at the heart of most problems associated with failing relationships. Screaming recriminations at one another and indulging in futile arguments is often mistaken for meaningful dialogue. You need to be objective in these situations. Dispelling anger helps to see the real issues more clearly.

Each couple will have their own set of problems and issues that they need to work through. Perhaps there are trust issues or issues with intimacy. Whatever your issues, sit down and talk about them without judging or accusing. State what you need from the other person in order to feel loved and respected. You may want to write letters to each other and share them if you fear that you will interrupt the other while you talk.

Wait until both of you have read before you say your piece. You will be astonished at how alike your views are.

Getting help

If talking it out doesn't help, you can always consult a trained marriage counselor or marriage and family therapist. Their objectiveness and unbiased views are sometimes all that is needed. They can also provide you with solutions that can help improve and strengthen your relationship.

Needless to add the encouragement and backing of loved ones, whether they are family members or trusted friends, is invaluable during these trying times. Talk to them and get their input but always be certain that they are genuinely concerned, and remember to stay balanced. Talking in this way helps, especially if you need to gauge whether you are being difficult to deal with and need some help.

If all else fails

If nothing seems to work and your relationship with your partner is getting worse, it may be time to think of a divorce. What often happens is that couples rush into divorce without trying to work through their problems first.

But many times, marriages can be saved and helped with communicating and working together to rebuild the marriage.

Having said that, remaining married despite irreconcilable differences, for the sake of the children is normally not the best alternative. Children irrespective of age perceive the conflict between their parents and the ensuing sadness that pervades the home. Having to grow up in that atmosphere is not right or healthy for the children.

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