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Sunday, February 4, 2007

78 Years Old and Boring!

Cary, Crystal Lake, Barrington, Schaumburg, Palatine, Woodstock, Lake in the Hills and McHenry, IL
2/4/07; 9:09 PM

A 58 year old woman consulted me yesterday because she wants marriage counseling to either make her 78 year old husband more "interesting" or make him OK enough for her to leave him. She's active, goes birdwatching some mornings at 6: AM and might cross-country ski certain mornings around 7.

He's no slouch though!! He plays basketball 3 nights a week, walks throughout the local mall regularly, is in great shape and is an avid reader.

His wife says that he just doesn't say anything "interesting anymore." He tells me he's happy with his life AND loves his wife too.

I'm wondering if there isn't a missing person involved somehow. She staunchly claims there isn't but...?

This change of heart just doesn't feel right to me...

What do you think?

Dr Mike, 847 516 0899;
www.nextdayappointment.com

Thursday, February 1, 2007

Can Paxil Mend Infidelity?

Cary, Crystal Lake, Algonquin, IL; 6:13 PM; Feb 1, 2007

Bill, a 45 year old optometrist, has been struggling with the issue of marriage counseling for many years. The problem is that his wife says he has the problem; she won't come.

She doesn't know he's having an affair with a 32 year old woman who he can't get off his mind. He reports being obsessed like a lovesick kid and talks about her great body and the wild sex they have.

It seemed to me he was becoming a slave to this obsession; he was tormented. We systematically assessed whether this woman was worth it and he'd always conclude "No." But he couldn't get her out of his mind.

As a hunch I suggested he give Paxil a trial. Paxil is an anti-depressant which shows some success in loosening the grip of obsessions. He was skeptical but agreed to try it.

For the last 2 weeks he's reported "not caring" as much about this woman, and even though they are still in contact, he's feeling that her grip on him is loosening. Well it's a little early to tell but the latest reports are encouraging.

Will the relationship with his wife improve? What do you think?

Dr Mike, drmike@nextdayappointment.com, psychologist and marriage counselor, 847 516 0899.

Wednesday, January 31, 2007

"Males are Just Predators"

Cary, IL; Jan. 31, 2007

Just finished with a couple where the husband would rage at his daughter about dating, coming home on time etc. His wife said the daughter does well in school, is socially adept and hasn't been in any major trouble.

His wife says she has to "protect" the daughter from his raging and is frustrated to the point of exhaustion.

What's all this about? He remembers his youth as a predator-always trying to get laid etc. etc. and is convinced that if he doesn't warn his 17 year old now she will be taken advantage of by other guys who are just like he used to be.

Hmm. I explained that by raging at his daughter who appears to be a good kid can actually cause the rebellion he's trying to prevent. Raging is never the answer!

We guys have to deal with our OWN insecurities first- before we try to do the parenting thing.

Dr Mike, Cary, Algonquin, Crystal Lake, IL
Psychologist and Marriage Counselor, 1 847 516 0899;
www.carypsychology.com

drmike@carypsychology.com

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