Dr. Marty Tashman has been in practice for over 30 years. He believes that combining compassion and common sense with formal training and experience is the most effective way to help a couple deals with challenges they are facing. Marty tells his clients that therapy should help change come about during the very first session. Of course, problems are not solved immediately, but every meeting should bring the couple to learning how to become closer to each other. Relationships can be “fixed”, if both partners want things to work they have taken an important step towards being a couple.

Dr. Marty holds a doctorate in Clinical Psychology; he is a licensed Marriage Counselor, and a certified Social Worker. He holds a master’s degree in Counseling. He specializes in short term marriage counseling. Dr. Marty also works with couples where one partner is struggling with addiction.

Monday, April 2, 2007

Marriage Counseling Retreats

People have the right to be happy, to treat each other
honestly, to love and respect each other. Intensive marriage
counseling retreats is really effective to help couples
understand each other, to make children benefit from happy
parents. Numerous challenges of modern day relationships are
making marriage counseling retreats a must. Usually, the
retreat means an opportunity to discuss what you consider as
problem in your relationship. Some therapists include in their
session a discussion about the personal backgrounds and your
history as married person.

Counselors need also to understand your feelings; they need to
find how to enhance your skills to resolve your marriage
problems, improving your communication skills too. Marriage
counseling retreats is also a chance to learn how to build
through increased tolerance your marriage happiness. Your
personal happiness is connected to your marriage. You will find
how to resolve your non-communication problems, how to chance
your attitude and self defeating actions.

How to build a healthy and happy family

Building better communication skills is the key of your
successful relationship; usually each partner sees the marriage
problems in a different way. Marriage counseling retreats can
help you heal after bad experiences, such as lack of trust or
infidelity. For these earth- shaking experiences, leading
usually to a divorce, there are powerful tools. Therapists can
help you to rebuild trust and love within the marriage.
Motivation on the part of both partners is necessary; the
marital counselor can help you move forward in your marriage.
Marriage counseling retreats can help you to survive
infidelity, even if it is really hard to find the options to
stay together.

Counselors will always try to maintain the respect and trust in
your relationship, bringing hope for the future, for the rest of
your life. Dealing with the issues in a harmful and successful
way is a science and an art. For many people this comes in a
natural manner, for other people, this science and art must be
learned. Committed marriage counseling retreats will bring more
caring and love into your family; it is necessary to find a
counselor to teach the skills of good communication; truth is
the goal and getting to the truth in a loving and carrying
manner is the best skill you can have.

No matter how difficult this seems to be, you will learn how to
find how to balance the need to be the "charming prince" for
your partner and the need to be an individual.

Sunday, April 1, 2007

How Marriage Counseling at Works

Marriage counseling at Affiliated Counseling and Referral Services (ACRS) in northern and McHenry County, Illinois is based on communication and a precision counseling technique. Expert therapists

help troubled families with serious problems to resolve them and stay together. Problems begin when communication ends; ACRS marriage counseling in the Crystal Lake, Lake in the Hills and Algonquin areas of Illinois restores, first of all, problem-solving communication between spouses. Estranged spouses begin to communicate in an effective manner and discover their real problems and implement the solutions.

Full recovery in marriage means to become your spouse's best friend. In northern Illinois, ACRS' professional and committed therapists don't make people feel guilty. 

The goal is to make partners feel good again; to restore trust and self-respect; and marriage counseling is confidential.

The results are as good as the diligence with which the couples work. Affiliated Counseling and Referral Services (ACRS) marriage counseling serves the Cary, Schaumburg, Barrington and Marengo areas of Illinois.  ACRS also provides a specialized web site,www.nextdayappointment.com,to provide the expert information marriage partners are looking for.  

Counseling can help couples having the same argument with their partners, time and again, feeling angry and confused. People overwhelmed with feelings of frustration and sadness must not wait until the problems become irresolvable. ACRS therapists from the Mchenry and Kane County areas of Illinois help couples to get past the hurt and feel in love again, to feel closer and trustful. 

There are chances to bridge the gap, developing a deeper

understanding of the problems. Unconscious or painful

experiences can be resolved, clearing the way to work on the

present. When grief and dark clouds hover over a relationship,

ACRS marriage counselors, practicing in the Cary and Algonquin areas of Illinois can offer the most advanced and state-of-the-art counseling available. 

After the right therapy, partners start feeling better about

themselves and start moving on with their lives. Therapists

work in a warm, understanding counseling style to discover

what’s holding partners back from the happiness they deserve.

People have become overwhelmed, feeling confused,

sad, lost or angry. It can be very hard to be alone with grief and pain. A good therapist can offer supportive counseling to promote healing So that the spouses feel heard, valued and wisely guided.

Tuesday, March 20, 2007 

Counseling with Blended and Extended Families 

I've noticed that having a marriage with children from a previous marriage is often an added stressor to couples I counsel.

This includes a marriage with an extended family which includes nieces and nephews, or having custody of any child that is not biologically that of both parents.

In marriage counseling, we frequently have to deal with ways that the roles of family members are evolving. It used to be that each member was restricted by the traditional sex roles such as the father as the worker and the mother as the homemaker. However, these rigidities are declining.

Today's mother can be the supplementary provider and still retain the responsibilities of child rearing.

IMPORTANT: Watch how you introduce your children into this new blended lifestyle.

Talk to each of the children individually. Ask their opinions; kids feel important when you ask for their opinion.

It lets them know that you REALLY care about their emotions. This gives them a security that most kids can miss out on.


Barring something particularly compelling, never withhold information from your children concerning your new marriage. Let them know that you and your new spouse are also adjusting.

Start new family traditions together for the holidays. Do something that sets your family apart from your previous marriage. Make it fun and comfortable.

Share the responsibilities and never jeopardize your step-childs well being because of being afraid that s/he will not like you. Unfortunately, a lot of step-parents try and become a friend instead of a parent.

This can cause more harm than good. When you become your childs friend and you need to punish them, they will be more hurt if their friend is punishing them rather than a parent.

Be right up front from the very beginning. If you follow the simple rules of being a good step-parent the rewards with be worth it.

They will grow to love you as another parent. This will cause less stress in your marriage and will make you both happier and healthy as a family.